Why people have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Affairs can be fraught with evils, cause despair, and other troubles. Plus you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, funds, age dissimilarity, faith education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet wives dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking affairs. I am sure mainly though it is just the human state, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
In nature we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the craving on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major cluster, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to look after. Your funds are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, usually the male is sexually neglecting his woman for a number of reasons. As a male I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is gone, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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